Since I was a kid, I loathed people who would say the words “Grow Up”. It’s probably one of the most insulting thing you could say to me. Call me every name in the book, yep I’ve heard it ALL. Talk a bunch behind my back, yeah, I’ve been there too often. Something about telling me to “Grow Up” is just down right rude.
It’s telling me that my light-hearted ways, my giggling, my random funny thoughts, having a conversation as I pull out a mustache on a stick, (YES I’m listening but life is just TOO short NOT to throw a funny mustache in there once in a while,) should stop.
I mean, this particular mustache came out when I was up to my eyeballs in numbers, working budgets with my best friend at a TRAC (Three Rivers Arts Council) event. I just had to stop and mustache some funny pictures. Drink my coffee. Do a little dance. Sit back down and then, back to work.
When my husband and I were engaged, we made a promise to each other. A promise that all couples, and good friends should make. That we would never grow up.
YES, I am a grown up at times. WAY more often the I’d like. I’m super serious about our house budget, about the care of my children, what we eat, about my pets lives and care, family and friends' lives. When I have to be an adult I am.
If you see me goof off, bust out the mustache, or just start doing the running man where I stand...if it’s in line at preschool dropping off my son...or in the office at the TRAC house, know it’s to entertain myself and others around me. I'm hoping to put a smile on faces, lighten the mood, and just take a break from the stress of life.
I must confess, I went to tell my 6-year-old daughter to grow up, but before the words came out of my mouth I had a fast reality check with myself and reminded myself she’s ONLY 6. I wanted to remind her and her brother that life is what you make it. Be silly, be random, be down right weird, dance often, even with out music, own your unconventional self and be proud of it all.
I had posted this picture of myself on face book and a good friend of mine commented on how she envys my carefree ways, and wishes to be like that.
It’s super easy to not be a grown up. Here’s how I do it…
1. Go get mustaches. These on the stick were in Wal-Mart's under a dollar section. I also have one from a .25 vending machine. (note stickers hurt when removed) or whatever prop makes your heart giggle.
2. Own it. Easy to say. Hard to do. Owning up to your silliness is hard if you’re worried what others think. Stop worrying about what others think. I’ve been doing it for 34 years.
3. Balance. Know that in a meeting it’s PROBABLY not a good idea to bust out the mustache or running man dance. BUT, at the end of the meeting, do the running man out the door. That’s acceptable.
4. Don’t try. Again easy to say after 34 years, but people KNOW when your trying to be funny for attention. The goal is to be yourself, and let the funny random happen. I may make a foil hat for myself, BUT I don’t point it out. I don’t even do it when anyone’s in the room. Just do it. Wear it. Act like it’s normal. It’s normal to me!
5. Don’t do it to0 much. That get’s annoying.
6. Don’t push it. You QUICKLY learn who tolerates funny, silly random things and who’s got a stick so far hidden from the sunshine they look constipated when they try to react to you. In some situations, it’s just not worth my energy. That’s when I just take a nap. (not kidding. Note: if you're in a room with me and I look as if I’m sleeping, I’m trying to imagine anywhere else I’d rather be) If you get a serious person to smile or giggle. You’ve done it. Don’t push it. Just enjoy that one little giggle or smile.
7. Enjoy it for yourself. Along with #4 you have to enjoy doing this. It’s got to be from the heart. Something that entertains you. If others get amusement from my randomness good for me bonus for them.
8. Practice. It takes practice to be Un-grown-up. If you’ve been a serious person your whole life, and portray that image, trying to just bust out random weirdness could get you some fast judgments, possible scripts for medication you don’t want. If you can handle the looks, the eye rolls, the rude whispers from the jealous, and the frowny faces from the judgers, then you’ve got it.
9. Laugh at yourself. It’s YOUR life. It’s funny! I love to share stories of when I trip and fall and no one I know saw it. I love to share messed up hair, and bad make up. It makes you normal to others.
10. Life motto: “Life’s to short to take serious. No one get’s out alive anyway”
Hope my 10 ways to not be a grown up remind you that life is yours. Take it a bit less seriously. I think my 4-year-old son has it down perfect, I mean, watch little kids and notice how much they do NOT care what others think of them. Many of those 10 tips won’t work for everyone. I’m a extrovert so it comes easy to me to just be out there. Do what works for you.
Oh and a back story, I grew up with rude, clique-y people judging and mocking me through Jr. High, it hurt. But I just couldn't bring myself to fit in their 'Cool' standards. It wasn’t until High School when I found friends who accepted me for ME. I was often told to never change. I’ve never forgot those words and notes from friends. Be you.
If you’ve got a freak flag.
FLY it proud.
Now my question to you… how are you less grown up?